I Have a Partner. Why Do I Need a Doula?

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Having your partner present with you during labor and childbirth is a wonderful source of support, and many people find their partner’s presence to be incredibly comforting and helpful. However, the presence of a doula alongside your partner can offer additional benefits and support, even when your partner is actively involved.

Here are some reasons why you might consider having a doula even if your partner will be present:

A Doula’s Offer of Complementary Support

Doulas are trained to provide emotional, physical, and informational support during labor and childbirth. They can work in tandem with your partner to ensure you receive continuous support throughout the process.

Sometimes your partner does not know how to comfort you or hates seeing you in pain during labor. They don’t want to see the person they love in pain but they aren’t sure in how to help you. Your doula can provide them guidance in how to comfort you.

A Doula’s Expertise

Doulas have experience and knowledge about labor and childbirth including various comfort techniques, relaxation exercises, and positioning suggestions. This expertise can be especially beneficial if your partner is less familiar with these aspects of labor support.

Tools to Advocate for Your Birth

Doulas can act as champions for your birth plan and preferences, aiding you and your partner in effective communication with the medical team. They offer valuable information and assist in ensuring your desires are honored.

In instances where a doula observes medical procedures being prepared, they can promptly provide a recap of what was previously discussed during your prenatal visits.

They might say something like, “We talked about ‘such and such intervention’ that you mentioned you preferred not to have.” This allows your partner to relay your preferences to the medical team or communicate them directly to you.

You Partner Can Have Some Relief

Labor can be physically and emotionally exhausting for partners as well. Having a doula present can give your partner the opportunity to take breaks, rest, or grab a meal without leaving you unsupported. They can update the partner via phone.

Their Objective Prospective

Doulas provide unbiased support and can help you and your partner make informed decisions during labor without the emotional attachment that a partner may have. They can offer guidance while respecting your choices.

A Doula’s Continuous Presence

Doulas remain with you throughout labor which can be especially valuable if healthcare providers change shifts or if labor lasts for an extended period. This ensures that you always have someone by your side.

Ultimately, the decision to have a doula in addition to your partner is a personal one. It’s essential to discuss your preferences and comfort level with your support person and consider how having a doula may enhance your birth experience. Some people find that the combination of partner and doula support creates a well-rounded and comforting birthing environment, while others may feel that their partner’s support alone is sufficient. It’s important to choose the arrangement that feels right for you and your unique needs during labor and childbirth.

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Megan Walker of Twyned Doulas

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